In life, there seems to have many questions but little answers. Many times we are stuck at somewhere due to insufficient information. We don’t know what to do or how to proceed just because we don’t know who, what, where, when why and how. Or so we thought.
Have we ever considered that what we can do if we did ask those questions and when the reply comes back? Do we always get the answer we want? 100% or partial? Can the answer really make any changes to our life? Will it be better than now?
There are many times we are tempted to ask even though we clearly know that nothing we can do if the answer is really what we guessed or expected. Yet, human’s heart is always triumphed over the brain and we proceed to shoot the questions. Have we ever thought what type of impact will arise, to the person who are being questionned or the person who post the question?
Can we make the situation clearer by ask more questions? what if (as I mentioned before), the answer cannot really fulfill our insatiable hunger for knowledge/wisdom?
Some might say "Better you ask lah. Otherwise you won’t know the truth" Then what if I know the truth and my brain register it as the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth BUT my heart is feeling discomfort just because of the truth? or I can’t do anything else IF I know the truth?
Then are we willing to live under a sense of false pretense? by ignoring the knowledge/information around us, hoping them to pass us by and not tainting our pure white mind and heart with the cruel facts?
In fact, we live under a real world where everything can happen and nothing is impossible (as in Adidas; impossible is nothing). No matter what we do (or attempt to do), fact is fact and there’s no way to run away from it. Face it and accept it. Reject it and you will face the worst nightmare in you whole effing life.
I believe in every event (or at least 99.999…%), there’s something good out of it and it’s just depends on how we view the event itself.
Back to my original point, do we really need to ask questions whenever we don’t know the direct answer? Can we somehow work around it? by analysing what’s the impact if we ask AND if we don’t ask. Can we really do something with the reply we get? Can we be assured that we definitely will get the answer on the question we asked? as in One to One matching? If the answer is NO, why bother we asked in the first place? Yet, as we are human, often times, our heart take precedence over our mind (or logic) if this struggle between to ask or not to ask
In underwriting, I believe, we often encounter such situation…
Asylum of Senseless Soul (ASS) 
By asking a question that would not necessary provide the exact, correct answer should not be considered as a waste of time or effort. It is how we respond to these answers that would ultimately create who we are. The process of differentiating a fact and a lie will assist us in understanding the world that we live in and the community that we are communicating with. It is through getting answers that we will know who we are dealing with. A liar, a straightforward friend or a raving lunatic. Though we will almost always get half-truths, tainted answers or 100% lie, take it as a quiz… a quiz that if you correctly identify the loopholes will award you with experience whereby you will gain levels to reach new heights.
Through asking questions, you would also have a hand in shaping and molding the person who is providing the answers. A same question with different tones in different location, different time would prompt different answers. Take it as a process where mutual growth takes place. Through questions a relationship be it friends, colleagues or lovers would face the possibility of either advancing or deteriorating. However, not asking questions would definitely deteriorate this relationship. Imagine participating in a race. Those who run would either win or lose but those who did not run at all, would definitely lose.
While it is true that sometimes we regret in knowing the truth, it is rare for a truth to be hidden from us until the day we die. Knowing the truth now will enable you to act accordingly… maybe to save a failing relationship or clear misunderstandings with friends… knowing the truth when it is too late to act would only drive a wedge into your heart, regretting in not asking.
Anyhow, it is impossible to know if one choice is better than the other because we are not clairvoyants. Just accept that you are the one who choose the path and acknoledge that you have thought carefully before acting. It\’s like buying shares in the market. You can only study the graphs and reports, make you analysis and finally determine your choice and let the market forces do their work.
Good thoughts bro. Anyway if looking from the other side, asking questions is not always the best option. Though it boils down to how we respond to these answers, the real question is why should we require to response to these answers? If we did not ask them in the first place, we have no take any action. For e.g in my line of work, asking too many questions while underwriting a case may not be a good idea. Or should I say, asking too many redundant question will put us into a position where we have to honour what we said (or asked).
As in the participating in the race, may be we should think "why bother to run at all? what is there in winning or losing? can winning make my world a better place to live?
However, I do agreed that there are too many different scenarios in this world for us to label them whether to ask or not to ask. We won\’t know which is better but after careful consideration with educated assumption, we might somehow make a better, if not the best, decision.